One Year Later: The Day Our Lives Changed

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A year ago today my husband and I drove our son to the hospital for yet another test. This test was different though. It was being done by a specialist who seemed to already have answers for us. It was being done by a doctor who took one look at our child and recognized how severely ill he was. This test was going to give us some answers.

For months we had been watching our son waste away and suffer. He had bypassed thin and made his way to skeletal. He was pale and weak. He had endured examinations, blood tests, and multiple IVs to restore the fluid he needed. He had missed weeks of school and lost the chance to take part in sports and other activities. Despite all of the time and tests, we had no idea what was wrong with him. Until March 19th, 2013.

One year ago today we got our answer. Kellen had Ulcerative Colitis and was admitted to the hospital that day. It was the beginning of more tests, new medications, new diets and a huge learning curve. It was the day he started to get better.

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March 20th, 2013, day two in the hospital

So what is Ulcerative Colitis? It is an extremely misunderstood disease, so I’ll start with telling you what it is not. It is not “tummy troubles”. It is not IBS. It is not something that can be cured by changing your diet, or really cured at all.

Ulcerative Colitis and Crohn’s Disease are both forms of IBD (Inflammatory Bowel Disease), not to be confused with IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome). Ulcerative Colitis is an autoimmune disease. Without warning the large bowel (with Crohn’s disease the entire digestive system can be diseased) develops ulcers that bleed. These ulcers are painful and the bleeding causes diarrhea and anemia and the diarrhea causes weight loss and dehydration. The damage to the large colon puts the affected person at a higher risk for colon cancer, a condition that is far too common for people with UC. The only “cure” for Ulcerative Colitis is to remove the large colon which involves placing a colostomy bag. Ulcerative Colitis can eventually be determined to be Crohn’s Disease if it presents in a part of the digestive tract outside of the large colon, and in some cases this isn’t discovered until after surgery has been performed. IBD is a lifelong disease that can be debilitating. Left untreated, IBD can be fatal.

The treatment plans for IBD present their own set of challenges. My son takes many pills every day, and that is challenging for a child. Steroids are generally the first course of treatment for a flare, and for some people this is enough to get them into remission. For my son they were somewhat helpful, but not enough. They did make him gain 40 lbs in two months. That is hard for anyone to deal with, but it wreaks havoc on a child’s body. Joint pain, stretch marks and insecurities plagued him.

May 2013 - After 2 months of prednison
May 2013 – After 2 months of prednisone

Steroids did not get my son into remission, and he’s not officially in remission yet today, but we did find a treatment that has helped him make great strides. Immunosuppressants and biologics administered by IV have improved my son’s health and life. It took nearly a year for him to gain weight without the use of steroids, but it finally happened last month. His medication causes fatigue and joint aches and puts him at a high risk for other illnesses. Despite all of this, it is our miracle drug and we are grateful for it.

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Oct 2013 – at his healthiest weight

Kellen continues to struggle with his weight and we are continually learning what food will and will not cause him problems, but he is learning how to manage his disease. His future looks bright! To help raise awareness for IBD and money for the Crohn’s and Colitis Foundation of Canada, we are taking part in the Gutsy Walk this June.

Using humour and my son’s love of Star Wars as our inspiration, we chose the team name The Stormpoopers and made a team for the walk/run. We would love your support! You can donate by clicking the button below. Credit cards and paypal are accepted and tax receipts are provided.

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Comments

48 responses to “One Year Later: The Day Our Lives Changed”

  1. Kimberly Avatar
    Kimberly

    WOW! Has it been a year already? Time flies quickly.

    I am so happy that you finally have the answers and the medications to help your son get better. I know there is still a long road ahead of him but at least the future is looking bright and he looks so much healthier now.

    Thank you for all this information and for explaining the differences between them. Thank you for educating us about this as well. Hopefully this information can help another person who might be dealing with similar issues or has been misdiagnosed.

    1. Sheri Avatar
      Sheri

      Yes, he looks good right now ad we are definitely learning to live in the moment.

  2. loriag Avatar
    loriag

    I didn’t know one so young could contract UC. I am glad he is on the road to recovery. I have seen the battle in my family with my father.

    1. Sheri Avatar
      Sheri

      Yes, unfortunately even babies can have IBD.

  3. Jenn Avatar
    Jenn

    I’m happy that he is on the road to recovery.

    Thanks for the education…. i had no idea.

    1. Sheri Avatar
      Sheri

      I didn’t either and I have some good friends with IBD. It’s very prevalent.

  4. Beth @ Musing Mainiac Avatar

    I am so sorry that your beautiful son has to live with this. Thank goodness you found something that helps. Hopefully scientists will come up with a cure soon.

    1. Sheri Avatar
      Sheri

      I hope they do Beth!

  5. mara Avatar
    mara

    I can’t believe it’s been a year. I’m so so glad that he is feeling better. Here’s to further recovery in 2014!

    1. Sheri Avatar
      Sheri

      Thanks Mara!

  6. Diana @ Toronto Teacher Mom Avatar
    Diana @ Toronto Teacher Mom

    It must have been such a long, stressful year for you and your family, I cannot even begin to imagine. I know so many people who suffer from colitis and who’ve had it for decades but I have never known anyone so young to have to suffer through such an ordeal. Thank you for sharing Kellen’s story and thank you for having the guts to raise awareness as well as much-needed funding. Wishing you all the best.

    1. Sheri Avatar
      Sheri

      Thanks Diana! It has been a year of ups and downs.

  7. Soozle Avatar
    Soozle

    This post brings tears to my eyes.. I am sorry that your son has to deal with this illness. I cannot even begin to imagine how hard it must be. I am so glad though to hear you were able to GET a diagnosis and start on the path to a better life!

    1. Sheri Avatar
      Sheri

      The diagnosis was a huge step. Not knowing is very difficult.

  8. Mary Reinhard Avatar
    Mary Reinhard

    Great blog momma. I am one of those moms whom had to have my kids colon removed due to Ulcerative Colitis. She was 4 years old at the time. The ileostomy isnt really a “cure” like the doctor claim. Yes UC is much more managable but we just have a new set of issues. I hope your son comtinues to improve and one day will see a true Cure for IBD.

    1. Sheri Avatar
      Sheri

      I agree completely Mary, it’s not a cure. I’m sorry your daughter had to go through that and I hope that things are improving for her.

  9. Lynda Cook Avatar
    Lynda Cook

    I am so sorry your son has to go through this, I can’t even imagine how tough it would be on your son but the rest of the family as well, happy to hear he is on treatments and doing much better, wishing you all the best!!!

    1. Sheri Avatar
      Sheri

      Thank you Lynda!

  10. Chandra Christine O'Connor Avatar
    Chandra Christine O’Connor

    my best friends oldest at 18 mths was diagnosed with Crohns disease . I remember having to put the tubes down his nose and set up his feedings with the machine when he was little. Hopefully they find something your son will be side effect free

    1. Sheri Avatar
      Sheri

      18 months is so young. I just can’t imagine dealing with crohn’s at that age.

  11. Gillian Avatar
    Gillian

    I was diagnosed with UC at 21 and then Crohn’s about 10 years later. I am lucky that as I grew older, and tweaked my medication regimen, that I am symptom free now. I watch what I eat, exercise regularly, sleep whenever my body needs it, and take good care of myself. I have a good friend who was diagnosed at your sons age – as an adult now she also is symptom free and lives a normal life. I wish this for Kellen too – that as he ages, and medicine evolves, that the worst is behind him and he can grow up strong.

    1. Sheri Avatar
      Sheri

      Thank you so much for sharing that. I hear so many scary stories, especially for children who are diagnosed, so it’s great to hear some happy outcomes.

  12. Tricia Nightowlmama Avatar

    so happy you got the answers you so needed. He looks fabulous and such a handsome boy. Hope he continues to recover and stay healthy. Having a new chance at life is such a blessing

    1. Sheri Avatar
      Sheri

      Thank you Tricia!

  13. mrdisco Avatar
    mrdisco

    thank you for sharing your story

  14. Anne Taylor Avatar
    Anne Taylor

    I remember learning of this diagnosis last year! I’m so glad they figured out what was wrong and that finally, your son seems to be going in the right direction! So happy for all of you!

    1. Sheri Avatar
      Sheri

      Thanks Anne! We can definitely breathe easier these days.

  15. Darlene Schuller Avatar
    Darlene Schuller

    This is a very very misunderstood ‘quiet’ illness. I say that because it’s not something that shows itself immediately, it’s over time, a deterioration occurs.

    I’m so glad they caught this when they did. Your son and the rest of you are in my thoughts and prayers. I know very few with ulcerative colitis, but my Mom is one.

    I wish your handsome little man all the very best & pray this stays under control for him.

  16. Erika E Avatar
    Erika E

    I like the team name, go Stormpoopers! I’m glad to hear things are improving for your son.

  17. Heidi C. Avatar
    Heidi C.

    Go Team Stormpoopers! I am glad that your son is on treatment that is helping him. He sounds like one tough cookie!

  18. Lisa - BetweentheKids Avatar

    I can’t believe it’s been a year, Sheri! The second picture is unbelievable!!! He looks soooo good now, though! <3 Hugs!!!!

    1. Sheri Avatar
      Sheri

      Yes, it was a drastic change. We use to hug him and tell him how cuddly he was though!

  19. Carole Dube Avatar
    Carole Dube

    I’m so sorry your son have to live with this, I’m gld that you find a treatment that is making is future bright!

  20. Doris Calvert Avatar
    Doris Calvert

    Steroids are the worst drug I have been on, they make you anxious, nervous, hungry, nauseated and thinned my skin to tissue paper, my friend went in to a depression, but they work. Sorry to hear about your son and glad it’s under control now.

    1. Sheri Avatar
      Sheri

      Oh yes…and he was very difficult to get along with while on steroids. He constantly had scrapes and cuts from his skin thinning too. It’s not something I will easily agree to putting him on again.

  21. Kat at Mommy Kat and Kids Avatar
    Kat at Mommy Kat and Kids

    What a horrible thing to go through for both you and your son! Thank goodness he is doing better, but I can only imagine how wearing it still is to know that there is nothing currently that can heal your son completely. Incidentally, my stepsister had severe asthma issues at about the same age as your son and doctors put her on steroids as well. Her weight shot up immediately and started a lifelong struggle for her; she is now almost thirty and still severely overweight. So thank goodness you found an alternative to those as well; it seems they often do as much harm as good. Thinking of you all and wishing you a real cure and much happiness in coming years!

    1. Sheri Avatar
      Sheri

      I agree about steroids. I have asthma and have taken them for that as well. Thankfully they are administered short term and at much lower doses for respiratory ailments, although that weight gain still seems to happen. People with IBD will take steroids for months at a time at extremely high doses. It’s not fun at all!

  22. Judy C (Judy Cowan) Avatar
    Judy C (Judy Cowan)

    I am glad he is doing better right now and I really hope that it continues. It sounds like it has been a very rough year, it is never easy watching you child deal with something like this. Good luck with the walk and I love the name!

  23. Laurie B Avatar
    Laurie B

    Sheri, I feel for you and your son as well. I myself have Ulcerative colitis and IBD. Diagnosed at 16 yrs old. It has been a rough road but a very educational one too. A lot of day to day things can affect and trigger flare ups. From food… to stress…to just about anything and everything you can imagine. The steroids on the other hand ( I was on prednisone as well ) were/are very hard on the body and joints and have long term effects. I have been through a variety of different meds as well to help with the colitis. And again there is a lot of managing with meds. Stay strong, be supportive and try to stay as possitive as possible. xo

    1. Laurie B Avatar
      Laurie B

      One more thing, He should try to use a stool to poop. Facebook * Squatty Potty * please check into this as it has helped me drastically. Even if you don’t invest in one.. Try to use a foot stool even. It’s something to do with the positioning of the bowels and helping it flow with a lot less pushing and pressure. I personally have used a stool for years. And now have a squatty potty and it is amazing! Hope this helps

      1. Sheri Avatar
        Sheri

        I am familiar with it and the science behind it, thanks!

  24. Nicole Brady Avatar
    Nicole Brady

    That’s very scary, Sheri. Glad you were diligent about finding what was causing the problems and I’m also glad that you weren’t suspect of child neglect. Our daughter was very small as a baby but was eating fine. She didn’t gain a lot of weight but she was consistent with what I was at her age. (I was only 30 lbs at 5 years old according to my baby records.) Unfortunately, the doctors saw her as being under the charts, insisted on test after test and accused us of not feeding her. It took a long time and a lot of tests and doctors before she was finally given a clean bill of health. She’s a healthy, growing 11 year old now.

    I hope you find success with the treatments and continue to have doctors on your side!

  25. Stephanie LaPlante Avatar
    Stephanie LaPlante

    I’m soo happy you found medication that works for him. I lived in hospitals too as a child. It’s tough but it makes us stronger. I hope everything continues to improve.

  26. Corry L. Avatar
    Corry L.

    Glad to hear that you found a doctor who was able to diagnose this so he can finally get treatment. My Mom was just recently diagnosed with ulcerative colitis as well as pre-existing IBS. Unfortunately, it seems to run quite strong on my Mom’s side of the family. I already have IBS so I’m hoping I’ll be spared from this terribly debilitating illness!

  27. Janie N @copperjane Avatar
    Janie N @copperjane

    You have a very brave boy! Crohns run in our family. Forty years ago no one talked about it and people suffered in silence. It has come a long way. Celebrity’s coming forward was a huge support. Not only for fundraising but just got suffers “out of the bathroom” 🙂

  28. Amy Lovell Avatar
    Amy Lovell

    what a very brave little guy you have. Glad to hear you’ve figured out what the problem was

  29. Elva Roberts Avatar
    Elva Roberts

    I am very happy that the Specialist was able to diagnose your son when he did. The picture shows a very sick boy and the latest one shows a healthy boy. Our little great granddaughter was diagnosed as Celiac last year at the age of 18 months. Having a family member with a disease which must be monitored and ‘managed’ makes the rest of the family very aware of her condition.
    Prayers for Kellen and his future health will be gong his way. Thank you for a very informative post.

  30. kathy downey Avatar
    kathy downey

    Thanks for all the information,i am sorry to hear of you son;s health problem.It seems the more with know the easier it is to deal and try to make it more comfortable.

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